Too deep in pain will only make it difficult for you to rise to reorganize. Apart from not being good for mental health, not yet sincerely accepting the reality will also encourage you to do trivial things that don't need to.
In the end, instead of getting sympathetic, you are actually labeled as someone who is too dramatic. Don't want to experience it right? So, as much as possible avoid the following 5 attitudes after breaking up, huh.
1. Showing sad expression to everyone
It is understandable if in a day or two after breaking up, you are still overwhelmed by sadness. So it's natural, if your face looks far from cheerful. But if the sour face lasts for months, sometimes people who see it will feel embarrassed too.
Rather than keep on putting on a sad face in public, so that you be pitied better that you feel sorry for yourself. The trick is to concern yourself with positive activities.
As much as possible avoid thinking about the ex and all the memories about it. Bringing a negative aura every day will only make the people closest to you stay away and that will actually make things worse
2. Spit grief in public
Everyone in this world must have a problem. Rest assured, that besides you there are not a few people out there who are also experiencing a breakup or even being abandoned by their loved ones suddenly. Never assume your problem is the hardest and deserves pity. Moreover, to announce that sadness to the public.
Enough of you and the people closest to you who know, the pain was decided by him who you still love until now. Publishing personal issues won't make you get a positive impact, really. Instead, the drama queen label will be sweetly pinned to you. Believe it, not everyone cares about what you are experiencing now.
3. Deliberately shows that you are single
Now almost everyone has social media. Through the sophistication and convenience offered by social media, many users are addicted. If you are one of the active users of social media, don't be tempted to make the posts a little annoying. Especially until announcing your new status as a single.
For example, at night you deliberately declare that a new single like you, can only stay at home because there is no boyfriend invited to walk. Maybe once in a while, the status can be considered funny for those who read it, but if the frequency is repeated for a long time, of course people will become ilfeel.
4. Disclose the former ugliness
Whatever reasons cause your relationship to run aground, indulging in the lack of ex is not a commendable act. If it is reversed, you certainly don't like it when it says about your bad feelings to friends? Okay, indeed you still hold a grudge against him, but deliberately dropping his image is not an elegant way to revenge.
Be reasonable, try to move on, accept sincerely what has happened and then re-arrange the new life better, is the best way of revenge.
Show him, that after no longer dating him you find a better new world. That way you will succeed in giving a 'hard slap' to him in a classy way.
5. "Meneror" the former by contacting him constantly
Just breaking up makes you unfamiliar without his presence. If there is usually someone who can always be contacted at any time, now you must refrain from bothering him anymore. Remember, now you are no longer a partner and you have no right to send him messages too often.
Every now and then asking how the news is is still reasonable, huh. But if almost every hour, every day terrorizing it with messages and phone calls, who would hold it. That will make it annoying and more effective that deciding you is the right choice. Come on, don't lower your self-esteem by doing that attitude huh.
Indeed, it takes uncertain time to really move on from the past. Want it sooner or later, depending on how you intend and yourselves. It would be nice if just grieving naturally, then immediately get up and reorganize your new life. Make the past a lesson. Remember the future won't be achieved if you still stop in the past. Keep your spirits up!
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